AMAZING LIVING WITH DAWN & LUCKY – EPISODE 032 “Keeping It HOT”
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“Living The Dream, While Owning the Reality”
Owning the Credit AND the Responsibility (Fault)
Dawn’s Poetic Metaphor
Life SUCKS, and We’re Just LUCKY!
Gender Roles, Episode Five
Being Deliberate about What we Wanted and Would Bring to a Relationship
Fanning the Flame: 10 Ways to Make it HOT and Keep it HOT!
1. BE A TEAM PLAYER – Work in the Same Direction with Similar or Joint Goals
Identify the Goals of the Relationship
What Do you Want to Achieve?
Be Part of the Solution
Work toward Your Goals as a TEAM
Having a Common Passion is Exciting
If you’re not on track, STOP, Adjust your Game Plan, Get a Coach, etc.
The TIME-OUT to STOP Momentum from Continuing in the Wrong Direction
Move Deliberately TOGETHER
2. ASSUME – Your mate wants what’s best for you
Assume CORRECTLY, not filtering your responses through past baggage
Assume Your Mate Loves You
Assume Your Mate Is on Your Team
90% of the Time, disputes are based on oversight, not malice
Assuming incorrectly is a passion killer
3. BE BEST FRIENDS – Do what Best Friends Do
Stop Keeping Score
“What About ME?”
They Do Crazy Shit Together
What Better Person to Have all this fun with than your MATE?
Your Mate is Your Best Friends with Benefits!
4. STAY YOUNG – Have FUN, and Play Like Children
A Serious Life Cannot Produce a Lighthearted, fun Ending
We’ll Be Spontaneous When We Plan Better
5. GIVE TIL IT HURTS, AND KEEP GIVING – Treat Your Mate Like Royalty
We’re ALL Nice in the Beginning
Only Givers and Takers.
Be a Giver, and Choose a Giver
Weekly Picnic in the Bedroom
“For You, The WORLD”
Why People Don’t Keep Giving
a) They’re a taker in Disguise
b) “I’ve Given Enough” Keep Score, and Play Games (Defense)
6. REQUIRE THE SAME FROM YOUR MATE – Give More, but Require More
Doormats Give without Requirements
“What It Takes to Get me Is What It takes to Keep Me”
Don’t Keep Score
7. PUSH PAUSE – In Conflict, Regroup and Re-Establish Your Bond Before Things Escalate
Get Back On Track with What you Want for the Relationship
Why The Big Black Cat Jumps Ship
8. REMEMBER YOUR MATE’S PRIMARY NEEDS –
We Don’t always need the same things in the same way
Episode Four “Feed The Need”
Human Needs Psychology
Understand The Primary and Secondary Needs
Recognize And Address The Needs Of Your Mate
GREAT Way to Show Your Love
Lucky Needed Security
Dawn Needed Freedom
9. TAKE A TIME-OUT – A Deliberate Stoppage
Micro-Vacation, a few hours or even less
Exclusively Together, Exclude Others, and Everything Else
Relax, Recharge, Refocus
Unplug from Tasks, and Plug in to each Other
Clearing Internal Space Creates Opportunity and Creativity
Forget Everything for an Hour, and CONNECT
10. CELEBRATE EVERYTHING –
The Power in “The Toast”
Make a Big Deal Out of Little Things
Multiple Deliberate Acts Contribute to The Relationship
Decide the Relationship is the Single Most Important Thing
EVERYTHING ELSE is Secondary
Prepare Yourself for The Mate Of Your Future
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