Episode 5 "It's Just How We Role"
INTRODUCTION
Opening Music and Introduction
Aboard S/V Chrysalis
Last Week in Episode Four: Human Needs
Download and Watch True Lies
Big Black Cat Tore some Shit up!
Episode Four Recap!
GENDER ROLES
Moving on From Human Needs to Preferences (Human Wants) and Gender Roles
Our first Conversation (Episode One) and Laying it all on the Table
Why is it necessary to cut to the chase about Gender Roles?
Gender Roles cross all types of relationships
Understand Who you Are and What you Expect
LUCKY EXPOSED THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW HE SAW THE IDEAL RELATIONSHIP
He Wanted Gender Roles to compliment, not compete, with one another
Lucky Picks on the Women FIRST
Roles of the Woman (The Feminine Role)
Roles turn on/off, up/down as needed.
Gender Roles have changed over the years
What Young boys who grew up in the 50’s and 60’s saw
Men took liberties in relationships, affairs, etc.
Men had free-rein, and Women were victimized
June Cleaver was home
Ward Cleaver was out or in the study
Victimizing and Abuse toward women was the norm, verbal/emotional/physical
“Because I said so” is not a good reason
“I will never treat MY woman like that.” “I won’t be THAT guy.”
How Compromise is not the KEY, but the DEATH of a relationship
Compromises of Character, Personality, Morality, What’s Best for the family
The Rebound Over-Compromise of men has Resulted in Lack of leadership
“Somebody has to be the Captain of the Ship”
A King without a Castle
Men became too soft and accommodating – violating best interests of family
SIMULTANEOUSLY, A GENERATION OF WOMEN WEREN’T GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE
Women Reacted in Defiance
Women Fought unfair situations in workforce, creating a backlash that transferred into the home
The roles became blurred, but women were still working in AND out of the home
Identifying Roles and being UNCOMPROMISING clears out the ambiguity
COMPROMISE
Compromising is usually done out of Fear of “The Price to Pay”
The Difference between Compromise and Changing Minds for the Greater Good
“If it’ll shut you the hell up”
We Get Good at What we Practice, including COMPROMISE
Deviating from a clear defined path for the betterment of the unit is COMPROMISING
Don’t be surprised if there is an affair or divorce
We lose our moral compass when we continually lie, make excuses and justify behaviors
The Importance of the time in the Mirror, be Honest with YOURSELF
WHY WE HAD A GENDER ROLE CONVERSATION A FEW HOURS IN OVER THE PHONE
Where is this relationship going, and what form will it take?
It is better to know NOW.
Gender Roles is a great conversation to have earlier, rather than later
If you think you want to SLEEP WITH THIS PERSON, this is the conversation you need to have FIRST.
Sex, Physical Chemistry, Romantic Involvement Clouds Your Judgment
“GOOD SEX WILL MAKE YOU PUT UP WITH A LOT OF CRAP”
Knowing what we offered and expected in the relationships’ roles enhanced our sexual and romantic desires.
PICK ON THE WOMEN, FIRST (FEMININE GENDER)
Woman’s Role is to bring sensory PLEASURE to the Relationship
VISUAL – Clothing, 50,000 pairs of shoes, makeup, meals, place settings, décor
SMELL – Perfume, food smells, candles, incense
SOUND – Soft music, voice, laughter
TOUCH – Bedroom, physical touch, her softness, soft towels, furniture, bed, soft and welcoming feels
TASTE – Food, Mmmm! Her flesh!
Bringing Deliberate Feminine Sensory Pleasures trumps other areas for Him
Anything else she brings to the relationship is icing on the cake
THE MASCULINE ROLE
Men have tragically let down Women
The Feminine has Primary Needs of Security, Safety, Comfort and Adventure
All Romance novels portray Appealing Rogues who take charge, have requirements, but are also tender
Fifty Shades of Grey Billionaire bringing Security with Risky Behavior
Buying things only satisfies or distracts her for a moment
There is an entire Culture of Men who believe merely providing a full time job is enough
“That Car won’t hug me Back”
Men want women to bring them all those feminine attributes, but!
What are men doing for women that inspire, protect, nurture her to meet his needs?
Dawn Had to Assume Masculine roles in Previous Relationships
Dawn felt guilty asking for only one thing…
How many women would want to really assume the feminine role, if they could?
Dawn’s friends thought she would climb the walls in a pleasuring, feminine role
The Softer version of Dawn is more Authentic
Feeling Secure Because of Lucky’s Masculine Role allowed Dawn to Experience her true Feminine self
Most of Dawn’s friends would have thought Dawn was full of shit
Dawn finally felt free to express herself in her true feminine role
What Dawn’s friends say NOW about her in the Feminine role
Dawn no longer lives in masculine “default” and the “Edge” is gone
Masculine role now feels foreign, and wears Dawn out
A Woman’s strength is in her femininity, vulnerability and softness
It WORKS!
The Softer Dawn is…The Harder Lucky is
The Wreck, and losing physical strength Forced Dawn to become softer
How Dawn uses her Femininity outside the Relationship
The world REFLECTS who we are at our Core.
The World Rises up to Care for her instead of Fighting against her
The world became more accommodating as Dawn became softer and more feminine.
Becoming More Authentic and Settled Internally Benefitted every Area
Taking the Mask Off
HOW DAWN BEING HER AUTHENTIC FEMININE ROLE INCREASED LUCKY’S MASCULINE ROLE
Lucky was inspired and motivated to realize his Masculine Strength and “step up his game”
Many Men pick emotionally weak women because it’s easy to be “The Hero”
The Difference between Weakness and Strength in the Gender Roles
Being a Feminine Woman is NOT a Weakness
Emotionally Weak Men use tactics to cover up their weakness and fears
Women shift to the Masculine role when men are not acting out of Strength
BEING “THE MAN” IS MORE THAN SAFETY/ADVENTURE
Men must Educate themselves: Be wise, make intelligent decisions for the family
Be WORTHY of her trust
The Decision on the MATE and Gender Roles
Be Honest: Understanding the Roles, Know Who you are and what you expect
“WHO ULTIMATELY IS RUNNING THIS RELATIONSHIP?”
“I am”
The Feminine Woman Controls the Relationship
“The Vagina Rules the World”
“It’s easier to find a vagina than a man with a fat wallet”
A WEALTHY MAN CAN ONLY CONTROL WEAK WOMEN
A GORGEOUS WOMAN CAN ONLY CONTROL WEAK MEN
The Role of the Admiral determines “Direction”
The Role of the Captain “Calls the Shots,” gets there safely, ONLY when he is qualified
The Admiral ultimately gives Direction, and the Captain Rises to the Occasion
Trust, Understanding, Authenticity and Capability are Required from Both Genders
Both Genders Work together to create An Amazing Relationship
CONCLUSION:
Have the Conversation about Gender Roles EARLY
Know what you BRING AND What you REQUIRE
Make them SHOW it
Be WORTHY of what you WANT
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