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Episode 4 "Feed The Need"


Amazing Living Introduction and Music

Our Basic Human Needs

Our Life Strategy Practice

Needs Span culture, sex, socio-economic, race, religion, etc. Needs Provide the “WHY,” and Drive EVERYTHING – Patterns of Behavior, Decisions, Actions

We Are Mental and Professionals, but Not Mental Health Professionals

What to look for when searching for a Mental Health ProfessionalS

Find A Mental Health Professional in Your Area

The Difference between Reasons and Excuses

What is the Difference between a Mental Health Professional and Life Strategist.

What Can a Life Strategist do for You?

How the Past Serves a Purpose or Continues the Curse

Taking Responsibility

The Contrast of the Past can Accelerate a Better Future

The Six Human Needs (Four ‘Primal Needs’ and Two Higher ‘Spiritual’ Needs)




Uncertainty/Adventure/Drama/Discovery/The Unknown

Opposing Needs Violate each other

“Spiritual” or Higher Fulfilling Needs

Contribution is Outward; Beyond Ourselves, Care for Others, “Leaving Things Better”

Growth is Inward; Expansion, Learning and Experiencing Something New, Becoming More

Needs are met in Positive and Destructive Ways

Significance and Certainty: CEO of Fortune 500 Company – In Control

Significance and Certainty/Uncertainty: Gang Member Mugging Someone at Gunpoint – In Control

Needs drive us to make Choices that violate our morals/value systems/promises and do it, Anyway.

Why We “Twist Off”, Do something ‘wrong’ but we “Can’t Help It”

The Understanding of Our Needs Can Propel Us beyond what Others Understand

Why we Do Things others might find CRAZY

Understanding our Needs Puts us in the Driver’s Seat

Behavior is Governed by NEEDS.

What do Most People Do in Relationships?

Creating Certainty/Security and Love/Connection

We Get Bored and Start Drama

What the Hell Just Happened?

Why we’re doing it and why we can’t stop ourselves

I was such a Bitch/Asshole

Why People live Decades, week-by-week in Predictable Certainty

Why People “Twist Off” in Destructive Behaviors: affairs, drinking, drugs, gambling

How to be Deliberate in Drama.

Understanding the Need for Drama and How to Use it How Drama Can be Positive for you AND your Partner

Establishing Trust in the Midst of Uncertainty

Dawn turns 50 Shades of Red

Dawn Broke a Husband and His Camera

Destroying Trust Injects Damaging Uncertainty

What Possessed Dawn to Pose Nude and What She Learned

The Benefits of Building Trust and Peeling Away the Layers

Feeding Your OWN Need for Uncertainty and Crossing the Line for The Need to Know

The Benefits of Calculated Risk Taking

Uncovering – A trust-building exercise

Connection and Acceptance

Building Trust and Closeness

Awareness and Acceptance of Self

Freeing and Expanding

Trusting Self, Gut and Others

Understanding our Needs in Relationships

Growing Certainty and Connection Inside the Relationship

Seeking Significance and Uncertainty together and on Purpose

Experiencing Growth and Contribution to and from each other

Who Decided it Was Wrong to Feel Good? Neale Donald Walsch.

Be Honest – We ALL do things for Self-Serving Reasons!

Everything we do Feeds Our Needs on Multiple Levels

Honesty takes you from Healthy to Amazing

Denial takes you from Healthy to Sick

Narcissism: The Catch-all Phrase. What it is/What it isn’t

Gary Vaynerchuk “I equally care what everybody thinks, while not giving a crap what anyone thinks.” from an interview with Brian Rose at London Real

Decision making for yourself and others…where is the line?

Certainty In and Uncertainty Out of the Relationship

Re-active versus Pro-Active

Keeping Relationships from Heading South

Why are we Climbing the Walls?

Most People are Dying of Boredom

The Certainty Trap and How we Lock Ourselves In it

The Weight of the Good Opinions of Others, and How to Dump it

The Family with two Kids, and He wants to Join a Band

What are Your Priorities?

Get what YOU need AND Give Her What SHE Needs

Get Acceptance instead of Resistance from Others when Meeting your Own needs

Quality versus Quantity of Time in Relationships

Injecting Positive Uncertainty to the Surface

Knowing What You’re Doing and Communication Makes it or Breaks It

True Lies


Jamie Lee Curtis

Tom Arnold (Sorry Tom – Short Term Memory Loss)

True Lies on Netflix

True Lies on Amazon

The Amazing Human Needs Lessons in True Lies

What Happens when People are Oblivious to their Own or Others’ Needs

One Partner’s Needs are met, but not the Partner’s

Feeding the Starving Housewife’s need for Uncertainty The Smarmy Car Salesman played by Bill Paxton Reveals His “System” “They Fall For it Every Time

“If He was taking care of Business, I’d Be OUT of Business”

The Implication of our Choices and Actions

Needs are ALWAYS Met – One Way or Another

Grabbing Life By The Balls

Navigating The Tricky and Slippery Slope of Smokescreens and Human Needs

Digging and Refocusing – Decision Making is a Process

The Ebb and Flow of Human Needs

Feeding One Need Violates or Starves Another

Taking Control by Understanding What Motivates

Being Deliberate about choices and Knowing why we make them

The Effect of Understanding Our Needs and Others’ Needs

Finding Balance of Needs in a Relationship

Being Deliberate

Knowing Roles and Expectations

Let the Walls Down

Be Transparent


Vulnerability and Acceptance

Understanding the Roles to Create

How to Continually Create Security and Certainty

Being Demonstrative “on Purpose”

The ROI (Return On Investment) of the Relationship GROWS with the Contribution

Some of The “Little” Things that Make Our Relationship the Most Amazing We’ve Ever Known

Constant Contact

Open Communication

Carrying the Loads

A Constant Buffer – Protection

Being Vigilant

Checking In

Dealing with Issues Quickly

Doing What You Say

Putting Up Boundaries that STAY and Enforcing Them

Being Consistent Even when it Hurts

Consistent is Secure

Our Word is Law

Why Lucky Didn’t Spank His Kids and Why Dawn Did

Being Who We Say We Are – All the Time – Even if it Hurts, Speaks Volumes

Remaining Flexible to Allow for Our Partner’s Needs

Creating Significance for your Partner

Feed the Need

Understanding Your Partner’s Needs and Meeting them, While You meet Your Own

Being Careful of Our Partner’s “Ouchy” Places

The Damage of Focusing On Your Negative and Reacting Self

Security Needs Manifest Differently

Inject CONSCIOUS Uncertainty by Creating a Lifestyle full of Adventure and Growth

The Negative Outcome of Injecting Unconscious Dramas into Relationships

The Danger of Playing Not to Lose

Applying Human Needs to an Established Relationship

Be Honest about your Needs

Know The Level/Importance of Your Needs

Communication and Transparency

Getting Outside Yourself

Feeding into Your Partner’s Needs FIRST Gets your Needs Met

There must be a Conscious and Constant Fight for the Betterment of the Relationship


How Important is it for You to Live an Amazing Life?

Know Your Reasons Why

What are You willing to Do, Risk and Invest?

WHY Trumps WHAT Every Time

There Are No Shortcuts on The Road to an Amazing Life

How Committed Are You?

The All-Important WHY

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